In present world, we come across a lot of people whom we term as selfish. Who, according to you gets this certificate/designation? Is it the one who thinks about himself and never thinks about others? Most of you will say, yes. Some of you might add something to it.
Have you ever asked your self whether you yourself fall into the same category or no?
I believe I am selfish. Besides, if I put myself in any other role, I feel I would still be selfish. Let it be a mother, father, husband, wife, friend, kid, nephew, niece et al.
You will directly come and hit me asking me how parents can be selfish. I would say they are at times. In our social structure, why isn’t a girl child encouraged much for studying? Just because she is going to stay with parents for a while and then move somewhere else. Why a boy child is never discouraged for studying? He is going to feed you man. How about a family where there are 2 kids of similar age. A boy and a girl. The condition is such that after graduation only one of them can study further. Who will be the best choice?
After reading this much, most of you must have already started cursing me. The reason is simple. Most of us think that being selfish is bad and no one likes to be called so; but isn’t this your own reading till now because I have never said so. Did I say that parents are bad because you are selfish?
Now, according to me, selfish is some one who first thinks about himself and then about others. Ask yourself, Isn’t this what I am? If not, then hats off.
Monday, July 16, 2007
Friday, June 22, 2007
4. Time & Money.
These are the 2 most vital aspects of life. Besides, they are inversely proportional. I mean, if I spend time you can earn money and if I spend money, I can earn some “quality” time. Once again my favorite statement: “Exceptions are always there” J
Lets focus on the term VITAL. Most of the folks (including me) do run for MONEY (vital #1) almost throughout the life. Whilst running, what they spend is TIME (vital #2). Ultimately, life comes to a period (full-stop). Did I really run for Money throughout? Or Did Money make me run after it?
So, where was LIFE? Just in the running mode?
An irony of the situation is such that I kept on running after one of the most crucial aspect and spend another important aspect in running and was searching for LIFE.
Lets focus on the term VITAL. Most of the folks (including me) do run for MONEY (vital #1) almost throughout the life. Whilst running, what they spend is TIME (vital #2). Ultimately, life comes to a period (full-stop). Did I really run for Money throughout? Or Did Money make me run after it?
So, where was LIFE? Just in the running mode?
An irony of the situation is such that I kept on running after one of the most crucial aspect and spend another important aspect in running and was searching for LIFE.
Monday, June 11, 2007
3. Celebrate.
I believe, one can always celebrate the following
Money
Food
Friends
Love
Conversations
Happiness
Thoughts
Feelings
Competition
Arguments (maybe!!)
Quarrels (crazy??)
Grief (huh!!)
Sorrow (weirdo!!)
Life (does it not include all the above??)
Existence (now, what is this?)
Being (does it not sound wacky?)
Add some more points.. (now thats what can be celebrated as well :) )
Money
Food
Friends
Love
Conversations
Happiness
Thoughts
Feelings
Competition
Arguments (maybe!!)
Quarrels (crazy??)
Grief (huh!!)
Sorrow (weirdo!!)
Life (does it not include all the above??)
Existence (now, what is this?)
Being (does it not sound wacky?)
Add some more points.. (now thats what can be celebrated as well :) )
Thursday, June 7, 2007
2. Responsible.
I am sole responsible for everything (literally, everything) that happens in life.
I feel this is what I should believe. I am sure I don’t implement this 100%. This directly means that I don’t believe in this statement. Still, I have an inner feeling that one day I will start believing this and hence, implement it 100%.
Why do I feel that it is worth implementing that I am sole responsible for everything?
I have experienced that me taking responsibility makes me feel more relaxed. Sounds pretty weird, though. The argument is when it’s not my mistake then what is the point in taking the responsibility? In a verbal argument with some one, what will I do if I feel that it’s not my mistake? Probably, I will start blaming him and shall raise my voice. If I carry a diplomatic attitude, then probably, I will softly do the same.
In any case, most of the times, I will end up getting frustrated as things don’t turn up as anticipated.
Solution? Nothing. Just staying sad until the thoughts (related to arguments) stop popping up.
Had it been a case, where I had taken the responsibility. Probably, the other person would have not got too wild. If at all, he would have cooled off in few minutes. Certainly, he would have also faced the similar consequences (with himself) as written above.
What would have happened once he had calmed down? There would have been a discussion working around the solution to the happening. He would probably also realize that there was some responsibility to be taken by him as well (may be just out of his guilt of getting wild or may be in real sense).
If nothing, then too it doesn’t matter as you (anyways) have already taken the responsibility. Thereafter, the choice is yours. :)
I feel this is what I should believe. I am sure I don’t implement this 100%. This directly means that I don’t believe in this statement. Still, I have an inner feeling that one day I will start believing this and hence, implement it 100%.
Why do I feel that it is worth implementing that I am sole responsible for everything?
I have experienced that me taking responsibility makes me feel more relaxed. Sounds pretty weird, though. The argument is when it’s not my mistake then what is the point in taking the responsibility? In a verbal argument with some one, what will I do if I feel that it’s not my mistake? Probably, I will start blaming him and shall raise my voice. If I carry a diplomatic attitude, then probably, I will softly do the same.
In any case, most of the times, I will end up getting frustrated as things don’t turn up as anticipated.
Solution? Nothing. Just staying sad until the thoughts (related to arguments) stop popping up.
Had it been a case, where I had taken the responsibility. Probably, the other person would have not got too wild. If at all, he would have cooled off in few minutes. Certainly, he would have also faced the similar consequences (with himself) as written above.
What would have happened once he had calmed down? There would have been a discussion working around the solution to the happening. He would probably also realize that there was some responsibility to be taken by him as well (may be just out of his guilt of getting wild or may be in real sense).
If nothing, then too it doesn’t matter as you (anyways) have already taken the responsibility. Thereafter, the choice is yours. :)
1. Countdown.
The countdown has already begun since my birth. It’s the countdown of the number of heartbeats, the number of breaths and the number of seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years I am gonna survive.
If everything is countdown towards death, then what is the point in counting up the following stuff (throughout the life time)?
1. Number of complications. Don’t they increase as I grow up?
2. Number of enemies. I guess they do increase as well. “Enemy” sounds very rude, but those who interfere in my life, they are equivalent to enemies. Aren’t they?
3. Numbers appearing in our bank account. Now, I don’t mean that I should go down to zero and start increasing the numbers on negative side.
I would appreciate if you can add up some more points and increase the number of counts :)
If everything is countdown towards death, then what is the point in counting up the following stuff (throughout the life time)?
1. Number of complications. Don’t they increase as I grow up?
2. Number of enemies. I guess they do increase as well. “Enemy” sounds very rude, but those who interfere in my life, they are equivalent to enemies. Aren’t they?
3. Numbers appearing in our bank account. Now, I don’t mean that I should go down to zero and start increasing the numbers on negative side.
I would appreciate if you can add up some more points and increase the number of counts :)
Friday, May 25, 2007
7. Shootout...
A Review on latest flick - Shootout At Lokhandwala.
First of all, hats off to Gupta & Dutt for their firm trust on Lakhia (the Director) whose initial 2 films have banged big time. He has proven his talent here. Handling an out and out violent film isn't a cakewalk and treating it in a precise manner is all the more difficult. The support from Javed (Action) and Mohile (Background Music) is what has made the film, an edge-of-seat flick. Dialogues, though cliched, are not-too-bad. Songs appear at correct time and don't hamper the tempo of the film, which is a good sign. "Ganpat" is a nice audio treat. It's more better with original wordings (which they have censored on-screen) :)
Technically, Lakhia has very well taken care of the 1990's Bombay (now Mumbai) look. The old number plates and old car models reflect a commendable research work. The building exterior/interior are worth noticing. A couple-a-glitches (modern day clothing, maruti esteem seen somewhere) can be forgiven and forgotten though. The 1984 videos have been shown quickly but precisely.
Bachchan Sr is appropriate. The climax scene, where he asks a sensible question has been shot pretty well. Dutt is impeccable. He delievers a mind-boggling performance. Oberoi is re-discovered after Company (2002). He shines in Maya's role. Shetty and Khan have filled some light moments in the film. Although, some of those are a tight slap on social/political structure, esp the one where he scolds his kid. Bachchan Jr marks his presence in a very small role. Kapoor doesn't suit in Buwa's role. Deskhmukh, I feel would have been a better choice. Roy has acted well and has got good footage. Lakhia and Ahluwalia are wasted terribly. Ahluwalia has a good screen presence though. Gossain is better than Lakhia and Ahluwalia.
Coming to women, Singh leaves a small but nice impact in Aai's role. Mirza is Ok. Dhupia - What is she doing in the film? Chhabaria gets maximum on-screen footage but she has nothing to do except moving her hips.
Wrapping up, it's a well made film with a sensible conclusion. I am sure those who will go for sheer entertainment will get disappointed though.
My Verdict - 7/10.
First of all, hats off to Gupta & Dutt for their firm trust on Lakhia (the Director) whose initial 2 films have banged big time. He has proven his talent here. Handling an out and out violent film isn't a cakewalk and treating it in a precise manner is all the more difficult. The support from Javed (Action) and Mohile (Background Music) is what has made the film, an edge-of-seat flick. Dialogues, though cliched, are not-too-bad. Songs appear at correct time and don't hamper the tempo of the film, which is a good sign. "Ganpat" is a nice audio treat. It's more better with original wordings (which they have censored on-screen) :)
Technically, Lakhia has very well taken care of the 1990's Bombay (now Mumbai) look. The old number plates and old car models reflect a commendable research work. The building exterior/interior are worth noticing. A couple-a-glitches (modern day clothing, maruti esteem seen somewhere) can be forgiven and forgotten though. The 1984 videos have been shown quickly but precisely.
Bachchan Sr is appropriate. The climax scene, where he asks a sensible question has been shot pretty well. Dutt is impeccable. He delievers a mind-boggling performance. Oberoi is re-discovered after Company (2002). He shines in Maya's role. Shetty and Khan have filled some light moments in the film. Although, some of those are a tight slap on social/political structure, esp the one where he scolds his kid. Bachchan Jr marks his presence in a very small role. Kapoor doesn't suit in Buwa's role. Deskhmukh, I feel would have been a better choice. Roy has acted well and has got good footage. Lakhia and Ahluwalia are wasted terribly. Ahluwalia has a good screen presence though. Gossain is better than Lakhia and Ahluwalia.
Coming to women, Singh leaves a small but nice impact in Aai's role. Mirza is Ok. Dhupia - What is she doing in the film? Chhabaria gets maximum on-screen footage but she has nothing to do except moving her hips.
Wrapping up, it's a well made film with a sensible conclusion. I am sure those who will go for sheer entertainment will get disappointed though.
My Verdict - 7/10.
Thursday, May 24, 2007
6. Mood.
According to me, Mood is nothing but the environment we create within and attempt to express in front of external world.
I am in the middle of some work and suddenly I feel like abruptly terminating the work.
This is not Mood. Mood comes in picture now. Here, I might choose to either continue work or terminating it. Of course, it also depends on how important the work is. To start with, let us assume that the work is important. I might continue doing work but probably with a dislike as I am actually not feeling like doing it but am forced to.
Still, what is mood?
Feeling (Feeling like or Not feeling like) can be termed as mood. If I can carry on doing the same thing with the same feeling, then I can say that I am in Mood (default term for good mood).
It might not be in our control whether to do the work or no but it is surely in our control how to do it. If I am forced to do the work, I can do it happily or unhappily. That is an absolute choice.
I am not in a mood to write anymore. Also, it’s not important to write. So, no need to work about the priority of work. Hence, I’ll prefer to follow my mood :)
I am in the middle of some work and suddenly I feel like abruptly terminating the work.
This is not Mood. Mood comes in picture now. Here, I might choose to either continue work or terminating it. Of course, it also depends on how important the work is. To start with, let us assume that the work is important. I might continue doing work but probably with a dislike as I am actually not feeling like doing it but am forced to.
Still, what is mood?
Feeling (Feeling like or Not feeling like) can be termed as mood. If I can carry on doing the same thing with the same feeling, then I can say that I am in Mood (default term for good mood).
It might not be in our control whether to do the work or no but it is surely in our control how to do it. If I am forced to do the work, I can do it happily or unhappily. That is an absolute choice.
I am not in a mood to write anymore. Also, it’s not important to write. So, no need to work about the priority of work. Hence, I’ll prefer to follow my mood :)
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